To the moms of toddlers: (or the mom who is overwhelmed.)

Parenting has been really hard for me this year. It’s been hard for a combination of the season we’re in, (toddlerhood, with a baby, postpartum, Scott works a ton, we are living in a very small space, just a lot of things.).

Even though we are younger statistically than the average parents these days, I don’t think we had crazy expectations that parenting was going to be a breeze… I’ve been around toddlers and babies my whole life, and knew there are seasons where it is just hard. What has been unexpected has been the overwhelm of always onto the next thing. You get potty training down, they go through a sleep regression. You get them sleeping again, and they start having meltdowns in public, you work through the meltdowns, and they try to give up naps even though they desperately need them daily…. Always something hard. At least that’s where we are at. Last night alone I got up 6 different times to deal with kid needs, and by the time the alarm went off at 5:30 I could have cried I was so exausted.

And this is totally normal;

this is toddlerhood.

I’ve been really discouraged lately, especially by the comments I have been getting, and hearing from other young mamas. They are from moms of older kids who are no longer in the thick of toddler hood and babies, essentially it’s “ I am so glad I’m not there anymore,” or “I’m watching these young moms with their kids and just so glad that I don’t have littles anymore, it’s just looks miserable.”

And every time I hear someone say this, whether it’s to me or to someone else, it’s just so disheartening. I understand being thankful you’re past this stage of parenting, but vocalizing that in such a negative way is really damaging to the moms who are in the young children stage of parenting right now.

So this is for the mama of toddlers.

You are doing amazing! I see you being consistent, patient and loving even when it’s frustrating and exhausting. I see you holding back tears while you handle yet another meltdown. I see you alone, supervising your kids at every social function. This is really hard, but I can see you’re doing your best! And it’s 1000% worth it when your kid smiles up at you, or hands you the weed they picked. When they loudly announce “me happy!” Or cuddle up in your lap! So keep going, it’s just a season, and the seasons change eventually.

4 thoughts on “To the moms of toddlers: (or the mom who is overwhelmed.)”

  1. I agree and am currently in this state of constant change with my 3yo daughter. Some days I feel like I am barely hanging on and other days I call it a success because she isn’t melting down in public bc of something so inconsequential! Thank you for this post! I always try to remind myself that every stage of parenting is not always going to be 100% perfect/great/rosy so I try to appreciate each stage as it comes and goes. 🙂 You’re doing great, I can already tell! 💞

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  2. I really appreciate your honesty and I’m sorry you hear so many invalidating comments! I marvel at you taking on the challenge of parenting!

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